All About Phyllis

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The Good

Espresso Mischief comes from my love of coffee and the words that come out of my mouth when I'm not looking. Now I try to catch them and put them on paper or at the very least a t-shirt. I'm a constant work in progress.

 

I keep changing and growing for the sake of my one and only daughter who I birthed in 2007 when I was 42. While I hope my books will help women struggling with baggage as it pertains to men and motherhood, they are mostly for her. 

 

Raising her is one of the best and hardest jobs I have because as a parent I am constantly making mistakes and learning from them. I am not nor will I ever be a sugar-coated mother. That's not how I roll. That's not to say I hit my daughter with harsh truths all the time. It means I'm a transparent parent who shows vulnerability during our many conversations with hopes she'll make better life choices. 

The Bad

As an entrepreneur and author, I feel I'm not narcissistic or arrogant enough for this day and age. I see so many new companies branded with names of owners and I wonder if I'm doing myself a disservice. I write and publish under my Espresso Mischief brand. I run my businesses under CKO Creator and Espresso Mischief Designs. You don't see the name Phyllis until you're on one of my sites.

 

Even now, I find it challenging to write about myself. What about me is interesting other than I'm a ghetto country smart ass who will fight first and ask questions later? Maybe it's that I constantly tell folks I don't like kids, but I have a heart for kids and will cut you to the white meat if you come at them wrong. Or maybe it's that I prefer boy talk over bourbon and cigars to wine with the girls.

The protector in me is strong but I won't hide my struggle of feeling no one would care if I died even though I know I am loved. This love has no bearing on how I feel. I won't hide that I can walk tall yet feel small. Most of all I won't hide the words that have escaped my mind, landed on paper and revealed my soul. With all my flaws and insecurities I've decided to be my loud self and embrace my desire to speak life into those who will listen.  I refuse to live a life of being uncomfortable so others can be comfortable in my presence.

The Boring

I was born and raised in Los Angeles living with my mom but highly influenced by my dad. Now I live in Medford, Oregon with my husband, our homeschooled daughter and dog. Who da thunk it. In addition to being a writer, I'm a business coach and brand strategist focused on helping small business build BIG BRANDS. I also take my smart ass comments and put them on t-shirts.

 

The genre of my books are teaching memoirs based on my life experiences that help me unload my baggage as a woman, wife and mother. I've been writing since my first crush as a teen and didn't fully embrace myself as a writer until I hit my 40's. That's because someone once told I couldn't write for a living and I believed them for all those years.

I was the business behind Bigmista’s Barbecue and my husband was the brawn. We appeared on The Great Food Truck Race and Man Fire Food together. I refused to do BBQ Pitmaster's with him. I gave up the food industry to a certified life and business coach.

I have a degree in business with an emphasis in personal finance. I am an alum of the Goldman Sachs 10K Small Business executive program and the Leadership Long Beach Institute. I'm also a past member of the Long Beach City College Culinary Advisory Committee and a certified bbq judge.